Do you ever feel that when your partner moves toward you, your first impulse is to pull back? Maybe it’s a hug you don’t want, a touch on your shoulder you push away, or even a kiss you find unwanted. You say, “I don’t like it,” or “Not right now,” or simply “No.” And maybe you find yourself doing this often, because it’s easier, less messy, less risky. It feels safe — in that moment, you’re in control. You’re not exposing a vulnerable part of you. You’re protecting somethi